Номер 2, страница 23, часть 1 - гдз по английскому языку 9 класс учебник Демченко, Юхнель

2. a. Read the article written by a woman who has been working as an Agony Aunt for more than ten years. What do people ask advice about?

Annalisa Barbieri: in 10 years as an Agony Aunt, this is what you’ve asked most

Ten autumns ago, I started writing the Guardian’s advice column. I had a thick folder that I couldn’t ignore, labelled: Mum love gone bad. This is the most popular question, and it scares me. (Sure, there are letters saying people hate their father, but mothers are number one.)

Maybe you were neglected as a child, maybe your mother was a controlling one or even an abusive one. You grew up thinking your childhood was normal, because you didn’t know any different. Then you get to your “safe place”: you’re in the job you always wanted, in a good relationship, maybe have children. And this triggers something, and you start to wonder: was my upbringing normal?

The very person you should be talking with here is the very person who doesn’t, or maybe can’t listen. My readers’ letters show that these mothers only like to transmit, not receive. Let’s face it, if they could, they wouldn’t be writing those letters.

You could try. I have seen people try: they ask questions around their own mother’s upbringing, which can provide ideas as to where things went wrong. With a really extraordinary mother, someone who can do work on herself, solution can be found with time and talk. But often, sadly, it can’t. So then what?

Talking to a neutral person can help with this. You can try to discover what behaviours you can control. But then you have to remember the golden rule: you will never change your mother, and you can’t control how she behaves. The word I find myself writing most often in talking about this subject is “boundaries”. Build some, reinforce them, keep to them. Your mother made her choices, now you must make yours.

adapted from theguardian.com

2. b. Read one of the letters to Angela. What is the reader’s problem?

Dear Agony Aunt,

I love my mother most of the time, but sometimes I hate her. She has always been critical of me (about my hair, my clothes, the way I do things). My brother, however, always got away with everything he did, no matter how badly he failed.

My mum is in her late 70s and unlikely to change. I try to suppress my anger, keep quiet and change the subject. I call and visit often, as I have to help her with legal and financial affairs; my brother lives abroad and he isn’t concerned about any of that. Mum lives in a different part of the country from me, and it’s not practical to go just for the day, so I stay for a few days and if I don’t do things the way she wants, there is an explosion. She then seems to recognise that she has gone over the top and sends sweet emails a day or two later about how helpful I am.

What I need is to find a way of not letting it get to me as badly as it does. All I hope is that her personality will not rub off on me.

Many thanks,
Pam

2. c. Find the words in the ex. 2a, b that mean:

a) using rude words to hurt other people;

b) the way in which you are treated and educated when young, especially by your parents;

c) the limit of what someone considers to be acceptable behaviour;

d) to stop yourself from having or expressing a feeling or an emotion;

e) do something in a wild, excited or extreme way;

f) when something bothers you, worries you, frustrates you, angers you;

g) to make somebody feel upset by reminding them of a bad experience.

2. d. Moving activity “Matching questions”.

2. c. Найдите в упражнениях 2a, b слова, которые означают:

a) использование грубых слов, чтобы обидеть других людей;

b) то, как с вами обращаются и воспитывают в молодости, особенно ваши родители;

c) предел того, что кто-то считает приемлемым поведением;

d) сдерживать себя от проявления чувства или эмоции;

e) делать что-то диким, возбужденным или экстремальным образом;

f) когда что-то беспокоит вас, волнует, расстраивает, злит;

g) расстроить кого-то, напомнив о плохом опыте.

Ответ:

a) abusive

b) upbringing

c) boundaries

d) suppress

e) go over the top

f) get to someone

g) triggers

Перевод:

a) оскорбительный

b) воспитание

c) границы

d) подавлять

e) перегибать палку

f) задевать кого-то / действовать на нервы

g) провоцирует / вызывает (негативную реакцию)